We have this love/hate thing...you and I

Over the years, I have had friends come and go...some of these people were really close to me and others were merely a blip on my radar screen. (Harsh but true). I have come to realize some I have thought to be my best friends weren't really friends at all...just a person behind a mask. My best friend since fourth grade was one of them. She let a boy tear us apart...he treated her like dirt and I let her know it. He didn't like me for it so he told her to stop talking to me and that's exactly what she did... A few people I was good friends with in elementary school have just recently come back into my life because we attend the same college. It's funny to me how you don't have anything in common for years...or at least you think you don't, and one college course helps bring you back together. My mom, who always knows the right thing to say, told me, "You won't stay friends with everyone you went to high school with forever. But, you will make new friends who are going through the same things as you are." When she first told me this, I was horrified and depressed at the fact I may never talk to my friends again. But, going into my third year of college, even when I was in my first year I knew she was right. I just didn't want to admit it to myself. Now that I have...I could honestly care less about the people who have left my life and it is infinitely better without them. If our relationships were THAT close, we would have remained friends. Call me all the names you want, but I think it's a good thing I moved on. I can grow as a person, and I can be more myself. I also think coming back to some of my original friends tells me something about myself...I think it means I have good judgment. I must have done something right in picking out the same people twice, right? On a recent episode of How I Met Your Mother, they thought found the fifth doppelganger for their group. This turned out to be wrong, and the main character, Ted, gave one of his famous inspirational speeches, and in that speech he said, "We've all been searching for the five doppelgangers, right? Well eventually, over time, we all become our own doppelgangers. These completely different people who just happen to look like us." I think this is one of the truest statements I have heard in awhile. People change all the time, sometimes for the better...sometimes for the worse.